Enikö Hajas Psychotherapy and Coaching | Psychotherapy Utrecht and Lisbon

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Ik hanteer een oordeelloze, samenwerkingsgerichte benadering in de therapie, waarbij ik een ruimte creëer waarin cliënten zich gehoord en gesteund voelen. Ik werk met integratieve psychotherapie, een gerichte, kortdurende methode die doorgaans 5 tot 15 sessies duurt, afhankelijk van uw behoeften en doelen.

Psychotherapie

Tijdens onze sessies richten we ons op het versterken van je kernkwaliteiten, het verder ontwikkelen van je vaardigheden en talenten, en het aanleren van de competenties die je nodig hebt om succesvol te zijn in je professionele leven.

Coaching

Ik heb uitgebreide training en ervaring in het werken met stellen, waarbij ik gebruik maak van methoden zoals emotiegerichte therapie, transactionele analyse en praktische communicatietools om sterkere, meer verbonden relaties te bevorderen.

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Enikö

Hallo, ik ben Enikö! Ik ben opgegroeid in een Hongaars diplomatengezin en heb een groot deel van mijn leven doorgebracht op verschillende plekken, zoals Vietnam, Italië, Nederland en Portugal. Het leven in zoveel verschillende culturen heeft mijn kijk op de wereld en mijn manier van omgaan met anderen gevormd. Voordat ik therapeut werd, werkte ik in het internationale bedrijfsleven, maar ik wist altijd al dat ik mensen op een meer persoonlijke manier wilde helpen. Tegenwoordig werk ik met cliënten van over de hele wereld en ondersteun ik hen bij de uitdagingen van het leven, met respect voor hun individuele achtergrond en verhaal.

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“Op elke nieuwe plek komt een nieuw deel van jezelf naar boven. Ware vrijheid komt voort uit het leren om overal bij te horen.”

- Enikö Hajas

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Are you an expat who just got this great career opportunity?

Are you an expat mum keeping it all together?

Are you a digital nomad traveling around with your remote work?

Need a listening ear to vent your frustrations?

Find coping methods for work-life balance?

Socializing, expat dating, dealing with loneliness, dealing with old patterns, creating new behaviors, creating this new you in a new country, or rather keeping your old you and upgrade it with new experiences?

This account is for you, to inspire you on mental health and self-care topics, out of my personal experience and with the help of hundreds of expats clients I worked with in the last 20 years.

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Growth has a lot less to do with motivation than people think.

It has everything to do with how much truth you’re willing to sit with about yourself.

Most people don’t resist change because it’s hard.
They resist it because it messes with the story they’ve been using to make sense of their life.

I’ve noticed that when feedback feels personal or attacking, it’s usually touching something that hasn’t been worked through yet.

The people who grow the most are just more honest. Especially when it’s uncomfortable.

That’s what my clients have taught me.

#onlinetherapist #expatlife #livingabroad #onlinetherapy

Comfort feels tempting in a foreign place. But comfort doesn’t build confidence or courage, and certainly not a new life.

That tight chest. That restless feeling. That “something’s off” energy?

You might think it’s failure but it’s actually growth knocking…

Every new chapter abroad demands a new version of you:
✨ stronger boundaries
✨ higher standards
✨ braver habits

Discomfort is preparation.

So if life abroad feels heavy right now, ask yourself:
“What is this season trying to upgrade in me?”

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👉 Postponed happiness
“I’ll feel settled after the visa… the job… the language… the next step.” Happiness keeps getting delayed.

👉 Living in “temporary mode”
Always waiting to start life properly after the next move or decision.

👉 Normalized instability
Visas, renewals, contracts, uncertainty… stress slowly becomes your normal.

👉 Celebrating alon
Big wins feel smaller when no one around truly understands the journey behind them.

👉 Living through updates
You witness loved ones’ lives through voice notes, photos, and social media, close, yet far.

👉 Belonging everywhere and nowhere
You create pieces of home in many places but don’t fully feel rooted in any of them.

👉 Late-night “what if” spirals
Wondering where to live, what to do next, whether to stay or leave, knowing one choice can change everything.

Does any of it feel relatable?

#expatlife #expatcoach

Need support? 1000 plus expats knew why to work with me. Because no other expat therapist knows better how to restart after taking a risk.

I traveled the world at 23, quit my high paid consulting job at 30, just to start my own company, left my stable country in my 40s to live where I always wanted to.

“I’m just too busy” often becomes the safest, most socially acceptable way to avoid asking the bigger questions:

- Should I stay or move again?
- Am I building the life I actually want, or just maintaining the one I managed to create?
- Do I feel at home here… or just adapted?

Every time you say “I’m too busy”, you might actually be saying:
“This decision feels overwhelming.”
“I don’t know what I truly want yet.”
“I’m afraid one choice might change everything.”

Busy becomes an excuse when:

👉 You fill your time with survival tasks instead of meaningful ones
👉 You postpone decisions about where and how you want to live
👉 You stay in “temporary mode” because clarity feels risky
👉 You avoid stillness because it brings what if questions
👉 You end up constantly on the move …But rarely pausing to ask whether this life still feels aligned with you.

The real cost of staying “busy” abroad is not just exhaustion. It can be postponed happiness, delayed roots, and dreams that quietly stay on hold.

Being busy can make you feel productive, independent, and strong. But…

Your future is built in the moments you slow down enough to ask yourself where you truly want to belong and what you’re no longer willing to postpone.

Scary decisions, lack of honesty, lost confidence, missing a direction hold you back from stepping in the next chapter of your life. And still you know that where you are isn’t your long term place.

A change doesn’t have to last months!

I have been working with 1000 plus expats with 48 nationalities while living abroad myself and exactly know how it feels to have everything and still feel stuck! And this is why expats for 20 years choose to work with me.

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I feel deeply grateful for my life abroad and also really proud.

Because this life didn’t just “happen”.
It was built through scary decisions, big changes, and learning to trust myself over and over again.

From the outside, living abroad and working remotely can look like luck. But behind it were risks, uncomfortable decisions, moments of doubt, endless paperwork, tears, growth, and a LOT of courage.

I didn’t land here by accident. I created this life step by step.

✨ If you’re dreaming about change, know that it’s okay to want more. It’s okay to choose a path that feels aligned with who you are. And it’s okay to build a life that truly feels like yours.

Burnout can feel especially complex when you live abroad, sometimes the same job that drains you is also what makes your life there possible.

As an expat therapist and coach, here are 3 things I explore with my clients dealing with burnout:

👉 Identify what is not aligned at work. Is there a conflict? Do you dislike the work itself? Are you underpaid? Does it not match your personality, values, or skills? Are you bored... or overwhelmed because it feels too difficult?

And at the same time... is this job what currently sustains your life abroad?

👉 Reconnect with your intuition

If something feels off, what would feel right instead?

What do you actually need right now? Which decision needs to be taken?

👉 Identify the tools and resources you already have

Confidence. Trust. Courage. Support systems.
Do you need new skills, more support, or stronger assertiveness?

What can help you move forward in a way that feels sustainable?

With 20 years of helping 1000 plus expats I can tell you that burnout at work frequently comes together with something bigger. An unaligned life. Wrong country, wrong relationship, wrong social life….

Take your burnout at work as a sign of an unaligned life!

So, are you ready to work on your expat life?

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If you’re feeling “ungrateful” for struggling with your expat life, this is for you.

A reminder that everyone has the right to ask for support and clarity.

#expatlife #expatcoach #onlinetherapist

I’ve been there, done that.

Settled for less just to fulfill others expectations. Society’s expectations. My own expectations that were based on an unaligned value system. Existential wishes that actually came from childhood traumas. My incapability to stand by my intuition, to speak up for my opinion.

I will never settle for a life that makes me feel miserable again!

In the time I helped 1000 plus expat clients to realign their expat lives, I actually did the same. 🙂

Nothing better than wake up to a life I consciously created!

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I’ve changed my life many times and witnessed 1000 plus expat clients doing the same. Transformation has always been at the heart of what I do and how I live my life.

When I’m working with people I’m drawn to the moment where something old no longer works and something new wants to emerge.

Most expats overcomplicate what it takes to get what you want. There is no secret method, no waiting for the universe.

Magic happens when you get radically honest with yourself, take full responsibility and move like your success is inevitable.

👉 If you don’t change your life won’t either! Let me know if you are ready to start!

My “why”: the reason I decided to help expats.

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You won’t burn out abroad again because you learned how to live intentionally, not in survival mode.

I changed careers, countries, lifestyle not because I failed but because I listened.

👉 Since I changed career at 30 I havent burned out once.
👉 Since I transitioned to Mediterranean lifestyle I havent felt depressed once.
👉 Since I embraced my purpose I havent felt empty drained once.

Not because life got quieter because it didn’t.
✨But because I stopped abandoning myself to keep up.
✨Because burnout ends when you stop living against yourself.
✨Because intention changed everything.
✨Because I built a life that supports me instead of consuming me.

You can do it too

It’s not too late and you are not behind.
Happy to teach you how I did it!

We ask for more, more freedom, better health, deeper fulfillment.

While showing up with the same habits, the same boundaries, the same level of self-trust.

So ask yourself, without filtering or fixing:

👉 Where am I wanting more, but still showing up as my old self?
👉 What feels uncomfortable or “too much” right now and what might that be teaching me?
👉 If I fully trusted myself, what would I do differently this week?

That’s the real work of expat life.
And once you commit to that, everything else begins to move.

Every time you say “this is new for me” instead of “i’m bad at this,” you allow your brain space to learn instead of freeze.

That’s neuroplasticity in real time ✨🧠

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Not just surviving abroad.
Not just ‘being grateful’.
But dreaming again and having the courage to go for it.

Allowing yourself to want more. More joy, more meaning, more you.

And that’s the work I do with expats!

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Courage isn’t about jumping off a cliff.
It’s about taking smart, small steps towards the life you actually want.

If you feel stuck in your job, your relationship, your routine, or just a version of yourself you’ve outgrown, it’s never too late to reinvent yourself!

Start small. Don’t quit your job without a plan. Don’t end your relationship without understanding what’s really wrong. Don’t chase a dream blindly.

✨ Follow me to learn tools that you can use to strengthen your courage!

That feeling that you are excited for your future again.

You’ve done everything you were supposed to do. Study hard, land the job, travel abroad. And yet somehow you still feel stuck.

You probably have a bigger dream but have no idea how to go there or if that is even possible for you.

Imagine finding out how…
That’s when the spark comes back.

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How hard it is to say goodbye every time and not know when we see them…

How hard it is to miss out on all the major events in their lives. To miss the happy moments, celebrations we used to do together.

How hard it is to not be able to share everything we go through. All the little details of our new expat life.
And days pass bye, weeks, months, and we loose touch.

But all that time we must know and trust that our bond will not disappear.

Having lived as an expat for 28 years, I can tell that many of them stay. And even after skipping years together when we are reunited it all continues where it was.

Trust the bond. Make the effort of keeping in touch and connect with their worlds.

Would you like to learn how to keep that bond tight? Feel free to reach out to me!

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I mean…who are you really? And what do you want?

What matters to you when you strip away expectations, conditioning, and “should”?

That is your starting point.

The firs step to change your life is reconnect with yourself and explore what you authentically desire.

Here is how to figure it out:

✨ Get quiet: Slow down and listen to yourself, clarity will follow.

✨ Find your “YES”: What do you actually want? What matters to you, not just your family, friends, or social media feed?

✨ Draw your vision: Sketch the life you want. Decide what to create, what can’t stay, and who you need to become.

Because no amount of “doing” will work until you know who you’re becoming in this new chapter of life.

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❄️ Tag the friend you’d start a snowball war with right now.

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You don’t accidentally build your dream life abroad.
You create it.

One brave choice.
One uncomfortable step.
One mindset shift.
One day of showing up when it still feels messy.

Your confidence, peace, and career don’t appear overnight, they grow as you grow.

So sip the coffee. Open the laptop. Make that call. Take the next step.

Not because you’re there yet… but because you’re becoming the person who can live it.

Want support while building your life abroad? DM me “ABROAD” and we can discuss way I could help you.

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❌ I wouldn’t rush into new goals or force new routines.
Living abroad already stretches you, pressure won’t change you. Identity will.

✅ I’d get radically honest about the past year.
Because if I keep showing up the same way in a new country, next year will feel exactly the same… just with a different view.

✅ I’d look at what’s quietly sabotaging me: survival mode, comfort routines, avoiding discomfort, calling it “adjusting.”

✅ I’d relearn how to make decisions that feel aligned, not driven by fear, guilt, or proving I made the right move.

✅ And I’d clean everything:
my space, my habits, my inputs, and the conversations I keep having about “maybe I should just go home.”

That’s where expat growth actually begins.

If you’ve been looking to get some support and guidance in your expat journey, but haven’t found the right person yet… I might be the one 😉

I’m Enikö, expat coach and therapist, here to support you in building your dream life while living abroad.

Have you ever heard these statements?
Have you ever felt that being an expat, your negative feelings are not allowed?
Your true experiences and emotions are dismissed?

After all… you wanted this, you chose to be far from your family and country, you chose for this job opportunity, and so you have nothing to complain about!

Remember that your mental health struggles while being abroad are not your personal failure!
There are so many factors that impact your life: different culture, local bureaucracy, a new language, isolation, different working conditions, just to mention a few.

It is okey to feel what you are feeling, it is not your fault. Don’t feel ashamed to talk about it and feel free to book an initial talk with me.

👋 I’m Eniko, an online therapist and coach, specialised in helping my fellow expats learn how to navigate this new adventure and find balance in their life.

2026, I’m ready.
Ready to expand the way I support expats, with new tools, deeper work, and even more compassion for the in-between seasons of life abroad.

If you’re navigating change, identity shifts, or simply trying to feel at home within yourself…
This next year is for you ✨

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Lessons learned this year, as an expat.
Which lesson would you like to share from 2025?

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Before 2026 starts, I don’t need another resolution, I just pause.

Living abroad in 3 countries has a way of keeping me in survival mode.

Adjusting, adapting, tolerating… again and again.

But before I carry all of that into the new year, I ask myself:

🖊️ What do I want to experience more during this time abroad?

🖊️ What do I need to stop tolerating?

🖊️ What am I not allowing myself to dream of yet?

2026 doesn’t need a new version of us, it needs a more aligned one.

Thank you for following me also in 2026 for grounded reflections, emotional clarity, and support for the inner work of living abroad.

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Merry Christmas to you!
Whatever is on your list this year I hope you’ll receive it ✨

Celebrating because I kind of reached all my 2025 goals ✨

“Spend all my money” → actually meant investing in a dream: my home in Portugal.
“Go viral” → happened, without losing sight of what matters: a genuine expat community.
“Survive 3 teenagers” → turns out this stage is intense, funny, and full of unexpected connection.

And a goal I didn’t plan for:
hugging friends in different countries and helping hundreds of expats feel happier, more grounded, and less alone.

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I wish they could sit with me for one week in therapy sessions.

Because what I actually see is:

-People navigating loneliness in a new culture
-Expats trying to cope with the feeling of outsider while being judged
-Identity confusion and constant reinvention
-Not being understood but feel pressured to adjust
-Guilt about family left behind
-Pressure to “make it worth it” because others assume they’re living a dream
-The silent stress of visas, uncertainty, losing jobs, lost community, and starting from zero
-And the invisible emotional labor of pretending they’re fine

Expat life can be beautiful, yes.

But it can also be isolating, destabilizing, overwhelming, and deeply misunderstood. Not all expats have highly paid jobs, many depend on their local partners and they miss out on their support system.

You’re allowed to ask for support.

You’re allowed to struggle even if your life “looks lucky” from the outside.

And you’re allowed to take up space with your real emotional experience.

#expatlife #expatliving #livingabroad

You’ve got this 🫶🏼

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This will be my guide for 2026 to define an authentic aligned life.

What about yourself?

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I often smile when clients act amazed that they’ve “suddenly” reached a goal that once felt impossible.

In reality, it’s never sudden. And nothing about it is “somehow.”

It’s months of hard work: admitting their suffering, acknowledging it, discovering their needs, allowing themselves to believe they deserve better, taking small steps, losing direction, finding it again, and slowly building confidence and trust in the process.

And then one day they reach their goal so smoothly they barely notice how much work they’ve done.

Their surprise is my favorite part.

Share it with your friend living abroad 👇

👉 Which country’s Christmas food am I committing to this year? And how many identity crises will the ingredient hunt trigger?

👉 Who am I disappointing this holiday season — which family, which country, which time zone?
Should I travel, not travel, or just apologize in advance?

👉 If I’m spending Christmas alone, what’s the survival plan? Get tipsy, lose myself in cakes, or go to a party full of strangers and explain (again) where I’m “actually” from?

👉 What do I actually need next year, besides therapy, sleep, and snacks from home?
Do I need community? Boundaries? A life plan? Or just a nap.

#expatlife #expatcoach #expatproblems

After 20 years working with thousands of expats, I keep hearing the same request from new clients:

“Please fix me.”
“I don’t want to feel anymore.”
“Give me tools to end this feeling.”

But no matter how much you try to escape your feelings (numb them, suppress them, outrun them) they will find their way back into your life at unexpected moments.

Emotions aren’t problems to eliminate; they’re signals to understand.

Instead of removing them, you can learn to feel them safely, gently, and with curiosity. That’s where real healing begins: not in the absence of discomfort, but in the confidence that you can meet whatever rises within you.

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Expat coach, expat therapist, expat life, healing journey, mental health coach

Home isn’t always a location, it’s the version of you that feels safe to show up.

Do you agree?

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Ever notice how the one tiny thing that could change everything… is also the one thing you keep avoiding?

I hear it daily from my expat clients that they are stuck because they procrastinate a small task. Whether it’s signing up for the gym, sending that application, or making that one call, you are called lazy.

But actually it has nothing to do with being lazy.
You’re most probably overwhelmed, afraid, or unsure where to start. And that’s human. Because usually small actions carry a big meaning.
They challenge your fear of failure, fear of success, perfectionism, self-doubt, or the worry that life might shift in ways you can’t control.

As an expat therapist, I help people untangle that invisible resistance so that the “easy step” finally becomes doable. Want to talk? 💬

#expatcoach #expattherapy #expatlife

You will learn that language
You will get that job
You will make new friends
You will build the life you have always dreamed of

Being an expat often means rebuilding your entire world: your routines, your relationships, even your sense of self.

Healing, adapting, finding belonging again… it’s messy, but it’s growth.

#expatlife #expatcoach

Trust me, I’ve heard it all. But most importantly I’ve listened to myself.

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As an expat who’s been through a few big changes myself, and as a therapist who supports others doing the same, I know how easy it is to ignore that little “what if” that keeps tapping on your shoulder.

Staying where things feel familiar can trick us into thinking we’re safe… even when we’re actually stuck.

Maybe it’s the move you’ve been thinking about. The job change. The conversation you keep postponing. The life you say you’ll start “one day.”

Your mind will try to convince you to wait until you feel ready. But none of us ever feel fully ready. We grow while we’re doing the scary thing.

Every big moment in your life used to be unfamiliar, too, and you still got through it. Some of those moments even ended up becoming your favorite chapters.

The risk you’re afraid to take isn’t just about comfort or stability. It’s about the person you might become on the other side. Yes, you might lose something. But you might also gain a version of yourself you haven’t met yet, the one who isn’t led by fear.

And maybe staying exactly where you are is the riskiest choice of all.

Save this for the days you start to shrink. You don’t have to.

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Expat life, expat coach, living abroad, therapy for expats, women living abroad

Remember that your future you already knows the way. She is not confused and not doubting. Connecting with her is what will help you trust the wisdom you already have.

Ready to learn how to connect with her? Reach out!
💬 @enikohajas.psychotherapy

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Are you tired of being asked the same questions again and again?

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Expat coaching, therapy for expats, expat life, life abroad

Does it happen to you? 😂

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So many of my clients come to me doubting their strength, their potential, their ability to change.
And I tell them the same thing I’ll tell you:

You don’t have to believe in yourself every single day.
You just need someone who believes with you—until the belief becomes yours.

This is the work.
This is the healing.
Borrow my belief until you build your own.
You are capable of more than you know 🫶🏼

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Just remember:

It won’t feel like this forever.
Pain is temporary.
Healing is inevitable.

The future that is ahead of you might fits you better than what you lost.

🫶🏼

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Is it just me or… 🤭
Tag someone who can relate!

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Resilience is built in small steps:
☁️ Resting before you’re exhausted.
☁️ Asking for support instead of isolating.
☁️ Letting go of what you cannot control.
☁️ Choosing to move forward anyway.

You don’t have to rush.
You don’t have to have it all figured out today.
You don’t need to prove anything to anyone.

You only need to stay connected to yourself.
From that place, strength grows naturally.

So take your time.
Feel what you feel.
And when you’re ready, step forward again, gently, deliberately, and with self-compassion.

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